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Will YOU Win Long Island IVF’s Fur-Baby Holiday Photo Contest?

By Tracey Minella

December 14th, 2015 at 1:59 pm

 

Photo of Minion by Liz


Plenty of people love their pets. But no one loves them like those suffering from infertility. When you’re longing for a baby to hold, that four-legged furry thing becomes your “fur-baby”.

Many couples’ pets help get them through the infertility journey. While they are not babies, of course, they definitely help fill the void. They are soft and warm and needy. They offer unconditional love and tons of kisses. And many even tolerate being dressed up for holiday pictures.

At this time of year, it can be particularly hard to handle the onslaught of baby photo holiday cards from friends and family. So last year we decided to create a diversion and give you all a chance to celebrate the adorable fur-babies in your life by holding a fun photo contest.

Want to show off your pet(s)? Send us a photo of your fur-babies. They can be dressed up for a holiday… or not. Upload the photo in the comments section of this post on our Facebook page anytime from now until 5:00 pm EST on December 21, 2015. That’s one week, so get snapping!!!

[We’re required to post a bunch of rules despite the simplicity of the contest, but don’t let the obligatory legalese dampen your enthusiasm to enter your fur-baby! But do read the rules at the bottom of this post in their entirety (sorry!)]

We will randomly select three (3) fur-baby photos, using random.org (or a similar automated random selection system) and announce the selections on December 22, 2015. Each of the three (3) Fur-babies will receive a $50.00 Petco Gift Card!

You do not need to be a patient. You can only enter once. You do not have to “like” our Facebook page in order to enter (but we’d love it if you did!) Remember the selections are by an automated computer system, it is not a judged contest.*

So go on and grab that camera! We can’t wait to see your adorable fur-babies.

NOW HERE ARE THE OFFICIAL CONTEST RULES:

 

Long Island IVF 2015 Furbabies Contest Rules

CONTEST RULES: We’re looking for your best photos of your furbabies! Whether they’re dressed up, doing something funny, or just plain being cute, post your photo in the comments below and you could win a $50 gift card to Petco!

*Only provide photos for which you own the rights (i.e. you took it). By submitting a photo, you represent that you own the rights to it, and consent to Long Island IVF’s public usage of your photo on their website and social media channels. There will be no compensation for use but photo credit will be provided. This contest is no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook.

1. Eligibility: Contest open to anyone over the age of 18 with a Facebook account. Employees of Long Island IVF (the “Sponsor”), its advertising or promotion agencies, parent companies, service providers, agents, officers, subsidiaries or affiliates, or any other persons or entities directly associated with the Contest (collectively, the “Contest Entities”) and members of the immediate families of and/or persons living in the same household as such persons, are ineligible to enter the Contest. Contest is subject to all applicable federal, state and local laws. This Contest is void where prohibited.

2. How to Enter: To enter, submit a photo that you have taken of your furbaby on the Long Island IVF Facebook page. There is a limit of one entry per household. Prior contest winners may enter again, but must submit a new photo. No responsibility is assumed for late, lost, damaged incomplete, illegible, or misdirected submissions. No responsibility is assumed for technical, hardware, software or other online entry malfunctions of any kind or unavailable network connections, or failed, incorrect, incomplete, inaccurate, garbled or delayed electronic communications caused by the sender, or by any of the equipment or programming associated with or utilized in the Contest which may limit the ability to participate, or by any human error which may occur in the processing of the submission. If for any reasons (including infection by computer virus, bugs, tampering, unauthorized intervention, fraud, technical failures, or any other cause beyond the control of the Sponsor, which corrupts or affects the administration, security, fairness, integrity, or proper conduct of the Contest), the Contest is not capable of being conducted as described in these Official Rules, Sponsor shall have the right, at its sole discretion, to cancel, terminate, modify or suspend the Contest with no obligations of any kind to entrants.

3. Requirements of Entries: Each entry must be the original work of the entrant, and must not infringe upon the copyrights, trademarks, rights of privacy, publicity or other intellectual property or other rights of any person or entity. If the entry contains any material or elements that are not owned by the entrant, and/or which are subject to the rights of third parties, the entrant is responsible for obtaining, before submission of the entry, any and all releases and consents necessary to permit the use and exhibition of the entry by Sponsor in the manner set forth in these Official Rules, including without limitation, name and likeness permissions from any person who appears in or is identifiable in the entry (or their parents or legal guardians if such persons are minors). Sponsor reserves the right to request proof of these permissions in a form acceptable to Sponsor from any entrant at any time. Failure to provide such proof may, if requested, render entry null and void. Entrant understands that Sponsor has no obligation to display, publish, or otherwise include the entry in any Sponsor publication or Website. By submitting an entry, entrant warrants and represents that he/she, on his/her own behalf and on behalf of any children or legal wards of the entrant, if any, depicted in the entry, and any persons appearing or who are identifiable in the entry (or their parents or legal guardians if such persons are minors), consent to the submission and use of the entry in the Contest and to its use as otherwise set forth herein. By submitting your entry, you agree that your entry conforms to these Official Rules and that Sponsor, in its sole discretion, may disqualify your entry for any reason, including if it determines, in its sole discretion, that your entry fails to conform to these Official Rules in any way or otherwise contains unacceptable content as determined by Sponsor, in its sole discretion. By submitting your entry, entrants grant to Sponsor and its parent companies and affiliates an unlimited, transferable, exclusive license to use their entry/photograph on Facebook, in editorial publications, advertising material, for promotional purposes, on websites or in any other media form whatsoever that Sponsor may choose without further compensation unless otherwise prohibited by law. By submitting your entry, you agree to assume all liability for and indemnify and hold harmless Sponsor, Facebook, and each of their respective parents, subsidiaries, affiliates, employees, contractors and agents from any and all claims arising out of the publication or use of your entry, including without limitation any failure of your entry to comply with these Official Rules or any representations being made by you herein.

4. Judging: Winners will be selected randomly using a random number generator in conjunction with a list of entrants organized in chronological order of submission date.  Winners will be announced on the Long Island IVF Facebook page on or by December 22, 2015. It is the entrant’s responsibility to check the Facebook page for this announcement, and follow the provided instructions for claiming the prize. Failure to do so within 10 days will result in forfeiture of the prize.

5. Prizes: Three (3) winners will be chosen to receive one (1) $50 gift card to Petco.

6. General Conditions: By participating in the Contest, each entrant agrees to release, indemnify and hold harmless Sponsor, Facebook, and each of their respective parent companies, affiliates, subsidiaries, employees, contractors and agents from any and all liability for injuries and damages sustained in connection with participation in the Contest and publication of winner’s photo.  By accepting a prize, each winner grants to Sponsor and its parent companies and affiliates the right to use his or her name, likeness, image, voice, testimonial and/or biographical information, as well as the name, likeness, image, voice, testimonial and/or biographical information of any children appearing in the entry, in advertising and promotion in all media without further compensation or permission, except where prohibited by law.
Sponsor of this Contest is Long Island IVF (Sponsor) 8 Corporate Center Drive, Melville, NY 11747.  This Contest is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook.

 

* Hey did we mention that this contest is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook and each entrant or participant completely releases Facebook from any and all claims??

And if you’re not too tired to keep reading…

LONG ISLAND IVF was nominated BEST IN VITRO FERTILITY PRACTICE in the Long Island Press’s “Best of Long Island 2016 contest. If you’d like to vote to help us win… and keep our title from last year… you can vote once per day from now through Dec 15 here:

http://vote.longislandpress.com/engine/YourSubmission.aspx?contestid=192637

 

Photo credit: our good friend Liz and her taco dog, Minion

 

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Embryo Donation vs. Traditional Adoption

By Tracey Minella

November 18th, 2015 at 9:47 pm

 

Photo credit: Nenetus/ freedigitalphotos.net


Embryo Donation is often mistakenly referred to as Embryo Adoption.

The proper term for a couple giving their unused embryos to another person or couple so that she or they may conceive, carry a pregnancy, and be legal parents to the resulting baby or babies is not Embryo “Adoption” but rather  Embryo Donation”. The recipient of this gift is the birth mother; no adoption is needed.

With November being National Adoption Month, many blogs were posted on so-called traditional adoption, where a person or couple (often one who can’t conceive or maintain a pregnancy of their own) will seek to adopt a baby born to a birth mother who does not want to or is unable to keep her baby. The baby is linked genetically to the birth mom and the man who impregnated her and is carried by the birth mom and then given to the adoptive parent(s) after birth.

But there is another option available to an infertile couple that is in many ways very similar to adoption…an option most people have never heard of. And it’s available right here at Long Island IVF…

Embryo Donation.

Picture a couple like you. Infertile and undergoing IVF. They had a retrieval and transfer and had extra embryos to cryopreserve. But they conceived and had a baby. Maybe even two or three times. They are happy with the size of their family and don’t want to have additional children… but they have extra frozen embryos and they don’t want to discard them or donate them to research. They want to donate their embryos to a couple like you.

Donate… as in “give them to you”. As the embryo donor recipient, you would essentially undergo a frozen embryo transfer at your convenience. While there are no pregnancy guarantees, of course, it’s noteworthy that the couple who donated these embryos to you likely successfully built their family using embryos conceived at the same time as these donated surplus embryos.

Other benefits of Embryo Donation: you could potentially conceive more than once and have children who are biological siblings to each other. Plus with embryo donation you can experience pregnancy, be in control of your developing baby’s health, and you’d give birth to your baby. True there is not a genetic tie, but there isn’t one in traditional adoption either.

Traditional adoption is a wonderful way to build a family. Embryo Donation is just another…often quicker… pathway to parenthood that may be worth exploring, too. Please contact Long Island IVF’s Donor Program Coordinator, Vicky Loveland RN, if you are interested in Embryo Donation at victorial@longislandivf.com or read more at http://www.longislandivf.com/embryo_donor.cfm

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Would you ever consider embryo donation?

 

Photo credit: Nenetus at http://www.freedigitalphotos.net/images/mother-and-daughter-having-fun-outdoors-photo-p350773

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ASRM 2015: Looking Back and Moving Ahead “We Could Always Do More and Do Better”

By David Kreiner MD

October 18th, 2015 at 12:58 pm

It was fitting that this year’s national infertility meeting, the ASRM was held in Baltimore, the city where the recently deceased Dr. Howard W. Jones Jr. first trained and rose to prominence in the field of reproductive medicine.  In the 1950′s and during his career at Johns Hopkins, he was involved in the controversial biopsy of cervical cancer patient, Henrietta Lacks, which led to the most widely utilized and researched cell line of all time.  Thereafter, he became an expert in genetic disorders and reproductive developmental issues that led to his opening the first transgender surgery clinic.  Remarkably, however, “Dr. Howard” (as we students called him) is best known for work he performed after his retirement from Hopkins when he moved to Norfolk and started the first IVF clinic in the Western Hemisphere resulting in the birth of the country’s first IVF baby, Elizabeth Carr, in 1981.

 

My first ASRM (called the American Fertility Society at the time) meeting in 1983 was a showcase of this brand new technology of IVF despite a success of 10% in the best clinics. Reproductive surgery was still more successful than IVF so there were presentations by the premier microsurgeons, laparoscopists and hysteroscopists who were demonstrating the latest advances that were becoming available as instrumentation had improved and laser had become a tool of the reproductive surgeon.  IVF was performed laparoscopically and ovarian stimulations were being performed with some variation of human menopausal gonadotropin, Pergonol, derived from the urine of menopausal women and Clomid.

 

In 2015, we reviewed the impact of social media in the opening presidential lecture urging members of the Reproductive Science community to spread the word about reproductive technology advances and utilize social media tools to educate the public.

 

In this meeting, it was now recognized that the LGBT community needed to become a special interest group within the ASRM with focus on alternative family-building that was available not just to lesbian couples but to gay male couples and transgenders.

 

With the successful fertilization and subsequent pregnancies achieved through egg freezing, fertility preservation for women undergoing cancer treatment, gender reassignment or aging prior to a time when they are ready for motherhood is now available. The technology of egg freezing thrusts upon women important new options to be considered (often on an urgent basis) when preparing for chemotherapy, radiation, hormone therapy or surgery… or simply before aging does irreversible damage to one’s fertility.

 

There was an Acupuncture symposium that presented research demonstrating improved success with IVF when utilized twice a week for at least 4-5 weeks prior to retrieval, before and after transfer.  The use of the mild male hormone, DHEA, was discussed in yet another symposium as a potential benefit to patients with diminished ovarian reserve to optimize number of eggs and embryos and improve pregnancy rates.

 

Elective freezing of embryos to transfer in a non-stimulated cycle and embryo-banking combined with complete genomic sequencing of the embryos to selectively transfer only healthy embryos has demonstrated improved success of IVF. And aside from the increased cost and time involved, it appears to be the ideal approach to IVF today.

 

I think Dr. Howard would be happy with these developments in the field and the direction the society is going both towards a more efficient and safer treatment and to widening its scope to be inclusive of the LGBT community.  Though typical of Dr. Howard, he always thought we could do more and better.  Weeks before his death, he called my friend and former fellow, “Richard S”.  He complemented him on his great work but complained to Richard that he wasn’t measuring some hormone or factor that Dr. Howard thought needed to be checked in Richard’s research…

We have come a long way in the 32 years that I have been active in ASRM. I’m proud that Long Island IVF has always been on the cutting edge of reproductive medical technology with programs and practices already existing for this year’s most popular ASRM topics, including social media, LGBT-focused and friendly alternative family-building, egg-freezing, complete genomic sequencing aka PGS (pre-embryo genetic screening), and acupuncture. Let it never be said that the work is done and that we are satisfied with the status quo.  As Dr. Howard would say, “we could always do more and do better”.

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Have you considered using any of these latest technologies or programs in your family-building plans?

 

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Companies That May Cover IVF, Infertility Treatment, and/or Adoption Costs

By Tracey Minella

September 18th, 2015 at 9:28 am

 

Credit: Stuart Miles/ freedigitalphotos.net


Can I get a show of hands of people who need IVF but don’t have medical insurance that covers it?

Well, misery loves company and you’ve got lots of it. But that’s no comfort when you’d give anything to have infertility insurance.

If you’re tired of working two jobs, forgoing vacations, and maxing out credit cards to finance your fertility treatments… while the rest of the fertile world is off at Disneyland with their brood… I’ve got a great little resource for you.

Here is a comprehensive, alphabetically-organized list of companies that may offer coverage for infertility and/or adoption costs* according to The International Council on Infertility Information Dissemination, Inc.’s website. Not only that, but it provides details about the purported amounts and particular treatments covered. http://inciid.org/?q=node/252#A

If you would consider a job move or career change in exchange for the potential to have your infertility treatments covered, grab a cup of coffee… and start updating that resume.

Good luck!

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Would you consider changing your job if you got infertility benefits?

 

* LIIVF makes no representations about the accuracy of any information in this list and provides it for informational purposes only.

 

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Donor Egg Recipient Seminar at Long Island IVF

By Tracey Minella

July 10th, 2015 at 12:05 pm

Thinking you might need an egg donor in order to build your family…but have a lot of questions about the process? Then we’ve got the event for you!

On Tuesday, July 14, 2015, at 7:00 pm, Long Island IVF will host a free event that could potentially change the course of your family-building journey. Everything you could ever need to know about egg donation will be covered. It should last about 2 and a half hours.

There are many reasons women ultimately choose to use donor eggs to build their families. Women whose eggs have been compromised by advanced age, cancer treatment, poor general quality, or other factors, have many ways to build a family through the donor egg and donor embryo programs at Long Island IVF. For many of these women, a healthy egg is their only obstacle to pregnancy. Gay men wanting biological children also need donor eggs.

Admittedly, conceiving with donor eggs or embryos is rarely the first choice, but often is an acceptable alternative after weighing many personal physical, emotional, psychological, and financial considerations. Decades of happy moms agree that using donor eggs was the best decision they ever made. In fact, you can ask one yourself at the seminar as one of our successful recipient moms will be on hand to share her experience!

It’s okay if you may not be ready to act on all the information you’ll receive. You won’t be pressured in any way. We’re just here to offer information… and emotional support. So why not come out and just listen to our team discuss the many different egg and embryo donation options?  Victoria Loveland, RN & Donor Egg Nursing Coordinator, Aviva Zigelman, LCSW & Donor Egg Program Director, and Steven Brenner, MD will all be there to answer your questions, privately if you prefer.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised when we tell you about how affordable and stream-lined our programs can be, especially our embryo donation program. And how competitive the success rates can be, as well.

Long Island IVF offers several different egg donation options, including Sole Recipient Fresh Egg Donation, Shared Recipient Fresh Egg Donation, Frozen Egg Donation, and Frozen Embryo Donation cycles. Each option offers its own unique benefits, costs, and other considerations. We have young, healthy, pre-screened egg donors representing multiple ethnicities ready to help you build your family.

Take that first step, even if you’re hesitant. We look forward to seeing you and answering your questions about the exciting option of egg donation. Light refreshments will be served. Bring a friend.

Please RSVP to Debra Mathys at dmathys@longislandivf.com and say you’ll be there, but walk-ins are always welcome. There is no cost to attend.

Location: Long Island IVF 8 Corporate Center Drive, Suite 101, Melville, NY

Date: Tuesday July 14, 2015

Time: 7:00 pm

 

LONG ISLAND IVF: WINNER “BEST IN VITRO FERTILITY PRACTICE” in the Long Island Press’s “Best of Long Island 2015″ contest. We are humbled and excited by the honor! Can we help you build your family as well?

 

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Will you be there? If you’d like to attend but can’t, please call anyway so we can make other arrangements.

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Gay Rights Taking Baby Steps Towards Family Building

By David Kreiner MD

July 3rd, 2015 at 10:13 am

 

photo credit: Sarah Allison Photography


Today, same sex marriage is a constitutional right.

It was a long time coming with much frustration, discrimination and actual blood, sweat and tears but thanks to the recent Supreme Court landmark ruling, equal rights is now protected by the law of the nation.

Now that SCOTUS has declared same sex marriage legal in every state, what affect will that decision have on alternative family building for the LGBT community? And how quickly will any changes be implemented?

Currently, insurance companies require that lesbian couples go through 6-12 cycles of inseminations without offering their insurance benefit because they “have not been proven to be infertile”…hint-you need sperm to make a baby.  Allowing lesbian partners access to their insurance for fertility treatment without first spending thousands of dollars on inseminations to “prove infertility” would seem to be a right that follows from such legislation.

And don’t get me started on the inaccessibility of insurance for fertility for gay male couples. Currently, depending on where they live, they must obtain surrogates who receive about $25,000 as compensation and pay additional $35-60,000 agency and legal fees plus the cost of obstetrical care on top of IVF fees.  This brings the overall cost to an average of approximately $125,000.  Of interest, Apple, Google and some of the other big high tech companies have offered such coverage.

It seems to me that if we recognize that all citizens are equal regardless of sexual orientation that offering equal rights to family building is merely a logical extension of the Supreme Court decision.

Today, we rejoice for the liberating decision regarding gay marriage…tomorrow we work towards equal access to care for family building. In the meantime shall we say we are taking baby steps…

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What changes, if any, in LGBT family-building access/coverage, do you hope will come from the recognition of same-sex marriage? What roadblocks have you faced and how have they affected your family-building?

 

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Long Island IVF-WINNER: Best in Vitro Fertility Practice 2015

It is with humble yet excited hearts that we announce that Long Island IVF was voted the Best In Vitro Fertility Practice in the Best Of Long Island 2015 contest.

The doctors, nurses, embryologists, and the rest of the Long Island IVF staff are so proud of this honor and so thankful to every one of you who took the time to vote. From the moms juggling LIIVF babies… to the dads coaching LIIVF teens…to the parents sending LIIVF adults off to college or down the aisles… to the LIIVF patients still on their journeys to parenthood who are confident in the care they’re receiving…we thank you all.

We love what we’ve gotten to do every day more than 27 years…build families. If you are having trouble conceiving, please call us. Many of our nurses and staff were also our patients, so we really do understand what you’re going through. And we’d like to help.

 

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Long Island IVF Hosts Seminar: “Family-Building the LGBT Way”

By Tracey Minella

June 15th, 2015 at 11:42 am

If you’d like information on family-building from a practice that’s been helping the LGBT community become parents for decades, we’ve got the event for you!

We’ve partnered up with the LGBT Network to bring you a very special seminar on June 25, 2015 from 7-9 pm at the LGBT Network Community Center in Woodbury, NY. http://lgbtnetwork.org/the-center

Long Island IVF’s “Family-Building the LGBT Way” seminar will answer everything you ever wanted to know about today’s LGBT Family-Building options. Two of our reproductive endocrinologists, Dr. Steven Brenner, and Dr. Satu Kuokkanen, along with other key LIIVF team members will introduce you to the fascinating world of assisted reproductive technology and how it’s used to help the LGBT community become parents. In addition, Vicky Loveland, our Donor Egg Coordinator and Melissa Brisman, Esq. owner and founder of Reproductive Possibilities http://www.reproductivepossibilities.com/ will be there. Ms. Brisman is a nationally known reproductive attorney.

LGBT family-building is different in many ways from so-called “traditional” family-building. As a practice made up of both LGBT and non-LGBT employees, we truly understand the nuances that make your family-building adventure unique to you.

Whether you met us briefly at LI Pridefest 2015 and you’d like to learn more about our LGBT Family Building program at Long Island IVF, or this is the first time you’ll be meeting us, we hope you’ll join us at the LGBT Network Community Center to learn about the many ways we can help you achieve your dream of parenthood.

Please pre-register for this free event by emailing lmontello@liivf.com. Light refreshments will be served.

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Will you be attending the “Family-Building the LGBT Way” seminar? Do you have any specific questions or particular topics you want to see covered?

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Long Island IVF-WINNER: Best in Vitro Fertility Practice 2015

It is with humble yet excited hearts that we announce that Long Island IVF was voted the Best In Vitro Fertility Practice in the Best Of Long Island 2015 contest.

The doctors, nurses, embryologists, and the rest of the Long Island IVF staff are so proud of this honor and so thankful to every one of you who took the time to vote. From the moms juggling LIIVF babies… to the dads coaching LIIVF teens…to the parents sending LIIVF adults off to college or down the aisles… to the LIIVF patients still on their journeys to parenthood who are confident in the care they’re receiving…we thank you all.

We love what we’ve gotten to do every day more than 27 years…build families. If you are having trouble conceiving, please call us. Many of our nurses and staff were also our patients, so we really do understand what you’re going through. And we’d like to help.

 

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Long Island IVF Sponsors LI Pridefest 2015

By Tracey Minella

June 10th, 2015 at 6:49 pm

 

Long Island IVF is proud to be a major sponsor of this year’s LI Pridefest on June 13, 2015 in Suffolk County’s beautiful Heckscher Park in Huntington, NY. http://lgbtnetwork.org/pride

LIIVF has been actively building families for the region’s LGBT community for decades due to its long-standing belief that every person has a right to be a parent. We pride our practice… which includes members of both the non-LGBT and LGBT communities… on acceptance and inclusion. And we address the unique aspects of LGBT family-building from both a personal and medical perspective. In many ways, your needs are the same as the non-LGBT community, but in some ways they are different. We get that.

Just stop by our booth at LI Pridefest and meet some of the team. Our prior successful LGBT parents will stop by for impromptu reunions throughout the event, too, and are often eager to share their experiences as well. The Long Island IVF booth will be in the Health & Wellness area of the Family Services Pavilion the entire event, from 1:00 until 6:00pm.

Not in the mood to chat long with all the festivities to see? Swing past and grab some of our fun giveaways, including bracelets, balloons, and informational brochures to read later. We’ve even got water bottles if it’s a hot one!

You can also get to know us later this month as we host a very special event at the LGBT Network Community Center in Woodbury, NY on June 25, 2015 from 6:00- 9:00 pm. Long Island IVF’s “Family-Building the LGBT Way”. Two of our doctors, Steven Brenner, MD and Satu Kuokkanen, join other key LIIVF team members to bring you a seminar on everything you ever wanted to know about today’s LGBT Family-Building options. Please pre-register for this free event by emailing lmontello@liivf.com. Light refreshments will be served.

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So who is coming to Pridefest?!

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Infertiles Support Caitlin Jenner and LGBT Community

By Tracey Minella

June 4th, 2015 at 8:30 am

 

image: Stuart Miles/ freedigitalphotos.net


On the heels of Kimye’s pregnancy announcement this week, comes other bombshell news from the same family. In fact, the bombshell is the news.

Caitlin Jenner, the Olympian formerly known as Bruce, debuted her new transgender self in Vanity Fair. Apart from a few trolls who are actually petitioning to strip her of her medals, this news has received a primarily…and deservedly… positive reaction from both the straight and GLBT communities. She’s free at last.

Of course, the many complex psychological issues that surround the transgender decision and process are not something any of us can truly understand unless we’re living it, but there are some common themes that strike a chord with the infertile community. And I think these similarities have generated the overwhelmingly positive response to Jenner’s transformation.

Infertile people can relate to not being able to live the life they dreamed of… and to being denied by some twist of genetic fate of a significant, fundamental right. We know the frustration of having our pain misunderstood or dismissed by society in general. Some of us live with the secret or come out and find no support. We may fear we’ll lose our jobs if our secret is discovered. And we feel like prisoners betrayed by our bodies, too. Not in the same way, but similar enough to generate great empathy for the journey Caitlin and those like her face. We need something from our bodies that we can’t have…something that needs medical intervention to achieve…something that will finally complete us and allow us to be happy.

What a burden for any transgender individual to bear! But how much worse must it have been for Caitlin Jenner, who for millions of people for almost 4 decades represented the embodiment of the ideal man? A chiseled, handsome, athletic, Olympic gold medalist whose celebrity never faded enough to allow him to express his true female self publicly until finally he found the courage to break free. Where others have a more manageable number of people to come out to, Jenner’s journey made world-wide news. What a wonderful role model for transgender awareness. We wish her only the best as she begins this new chapter of her life.

Long Island IVF has been helping the LGBT community on Long Island build its families for decades and is proud to be a sponsor of LI Pridefest 2015. We believe that all people have the fundamental right to a family. Please contact us if you need assistance building your family or come meet us on June 13, 2015 at the LI Pridefest in the Family Services Pavilion. We’re looking forward to reuniting with the families we’ve helped create and to meeting new friends. Or come to our seminar on LGBT family building at the LGBT Network Community Center in Woodbury, NY on Thursday, June 25, 2015 from 7-9pm. Email lmontello@liivf.com to reserve your spot.

We look forward to seeing you soon.

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How do you feel about Caitlin Jenner’s transition? (Please keep responses respectful.)

 

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Why Kimye’s Conception May Have Pushed Your Button

By admin

June 2nd, 2015 at 8:07 am

 

image credit: Frame Angel/ freedigitalphotos.net


Are you an emotional mess this week? I think the top news stories have helped to stir the emotional pot for the infertile community.

In addition to Mother Nature serving up a cold, miserable Monday, the week opened with Kim and Kanye’s news of a second pregnancy. And their “struggles” with IVF.  News flash Kimye: Nobody likes a whiner. Especially one who already has one healthy baby, who hasn’t done IVF as long as many average couples need to, and who presumably has enough money to pursue IVF or any other family-building option they may have needed…if they didn’t get lucky to conceive so fast.

Seems many in the infertility community feel the same way. Why is it we’re not embracing this celebrity couple as the poster couple of IVF? Why can’t we get past the usual benign level of envy that others’ pregnancies bring and say, “Well at least they’re raising awareness of infertility”?

When talking to your average infertile couples, many will tell you that finances are the main obstacle to having a family through assisted reproductive technologies like IVF. So it’s natural to be jealous of those with unlimited funds. But why does this couple’s news push our proverbial button so hard? Do you think it possibly comes from a simple dislike of or a lack of respect for them, perhaps as a result of how they gained their celebrity or for their public behavior since becoming famous? Did that all make their brief “struggle” less sympathetic to us? Should we be more understanding?

Maybe it’s the impression that they don’t seem to realize how truly lucky they are to have conceived. Yes, that could be it. The apparent lack of appreciation for their good fortune and the miracle that is IVF. It may also be the feeling that, if history repeats itself, at any moment now we may hear complaints about what pregnancy does to one’s appearance. And that’s just too hard to bear. In fact, just the anticipation of those complaints induces a slow burn in the infertile gut.

Who among us long suffering infertiles wouldn’t care if we packed on 50 pounds, spent nine months on bed rest, and sprouted hemorrhoids just to be pregnant? Those who really appreciate the gift of pregnancy…who struggled for it… don’t complain about it. Ever. At least not out loud. It’s like that moment when Linus says to Sally “If the Great Pumpkin comes..” then gasps and desperately self-corrects “I mean WHEN he comes…” You just don’t speak of certain things. You don’t tempt fate.

Despite all the jealousy. Despite what will feel like the longest pregnancy ever being in our faces for nine months. Despite whatever else you may feel about the parents or the situation, any baby is a blessing. And we all know that deep, deep down.

That said, it’s okay to feel that life is simply unfair. Especially on weeks like this one.

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How, if at all, has the news of Kim and Kanye’s IVF pregnancy affected you?

 

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