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Infertility and Legal Gay Marriage in New York

By Tracey Minella

June 27th, 2011 at 12:00 am

“Welcome to the 90’s Mr. Baaaaanks,” said the loveable, flamboyant, effeminate wedding planner, Franck, in the smash hit Father of the Bride.

This weekend, after the news that New York voted to legalize gay marriage sank in, I smiled at the thought of so many good friends and family members who could now finally sanctify their unions the way straight couples always could.

I think it’s one of those changes that we all felt was ultimately going to happen, yet was so long in coming, that when we look back on this vote in 20 years, we’ll wonder what took so long. What was the big deal? Why wasn’t it always this way?

I picture my future grandkid (if I live that long since it took me so long to have my IVF kids!) saying “Really? Gays couldn’t marry when you were young, Grandma?”  The way my daughter asked her own Grandmother last night, “Really Nana? Whites couldn’t marry blacks and Catholics didn’t marry Jews?” And if we went far enough back in time, we’d find generations asking “Really? You didn’t have the right to vote, Grammy?” (Let’s hope those grandkids will also ask us “You mean infertility treatment wasn’t covered back then!”)

Change is inevitable. We evolve. Technology progresses. Sometimes decisions need to be made based on nothing more than looking in your heart and doing what your heart says is the right thing. Too often, it doesn’t happen that way. New York looked in its heart this time. Or at least I choose to see it that way.

I am happy to have raised one of the most accepting, loving, teenage Catholic daughters you’d ever meet. And I think kids today are more tolerant overall. Labels of our generation (or our parents’)… blacks, gays, Jews and a host of other often derogatory terms for the rest of society’s melting pot members… don’t even register for my daughter, a fun-loving theater kid with several gay friends. Those realities mean no more to her than hair or eye color.

I can’t wait for the gay wedding showers and celebrations to come! And it’s a perfect time of year. And then, yes then, the babies will follow. And that’s where we come in.

At least the gay population will not now have to suffer an additional 50 years waiting for the technology to help them become parents? East Coast Fertility has been helping gay folks get pregnant for ages already. And we’re waiting for you as soon as you get back from that honeymoon!

Maybe I’ll put on my screenwriter’s cap. I think it’s time to get Martin Short on the phone. Fathers of the Brides will no doubt be coming to the big screen.

“Welcome to the 10’s, Misters Baaaaanks.”

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Do you think New York got it right? Do you …as someone who has been denied your own important dream …sympathize with the gay population? Or do you see a down side to gay marriage? How does it affect you?

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